Thursday, December 9, 2010

well, now, let's see...

one tree is up
adorned with lights
and decorated with the baubles
i bought at the pear tree
(i'm not sure how many years ago?).

two more are awaiting
(my getting the living room
patched, sealed, and painted)
one with baubles my mother gave me...
the other with family decorations
that come with 20+ years of marriage:)


saturday, my kitty kat turns 18!
where has the time gone?
so strange...
but true.

she and 15 of her friends are celebrating
by enjoying a late dinner at the bonefish grill
followed by cold stone creamery cake...
on the lane.

two friends will be missing,
will, who now resides in florida
chase, who now resides
in heaven....


katherine will take the act
on saturday morning...
for the last time.
she has really been working
to get her score up a couple of points
in order to be in the running for an
academic scholarship from
the university of evansville.

john graduated from u of e
the year katherine was born!


i've watched only 2 of my new
Christmas movies...
it happened on 5th avenue
capote's a Christmas memory...
loved them both:)


love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Friday, December 3, 2010

adding to my collection...

you are thinking pajamas;
aren't you!!?!?

well, you are partially correct, ha;)

i do have 2 brand-new pairs of flannels
awaiting my donning!



the collection to which i am referring
is my Christmas movie collection.

for the past several years in mid-november,
i've gone online and have ordered various
Christmas movies to add to my ever-growing
collection of vhs's and dvd's to enjoy
throughout the holiday season.

over the years, i have seen many of them
(and many of the classics, repeatedly).
though, thanks to internet i have found
a multitude that i have never seen at all..
never have i even heard of them.

this year i ordered such popular ones as:

Christmas in connecticut
holiday inn
a Christmas carol

a few with popular Christmas scenes:

meet me in st. louis
an affair to remember
love affair

several oldies but completely new to me:

the shop around the corner
it happened on 5th avenue
beyond tomorrow
holiday affair

a newer one i somehow missed along the way:


and last but not least...
the one, which i was thrilled to find:

truman capote's, a Christmas memory!


is there a Christmas movie on this year's list
of which you are particularly fond
(or a rare gem i am missing)?

if so,


love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Thursday, November 4, 2010

waste not...

want not!

saturday is supposed to be "d" day
on the lane...
the "d" cluttering of my house.

but, i always face a major "d" lemma
at times such as these:

what do i keep,
and what do i "d" lete???


i've heard it said that,
"if you haven't used it in 6 months,
get rid of it."

well, i haven't used my food processor
in over 2 years. but, i will need it
the next time i want to make
raspberry linzer cookies.
i will want it then
but will have made waste of it.

and, my favorite ralph lauren weekender-jeans...
they haven't fit for 3 years.
but, if i ever take off the extra 40lbs
i've gained, i will want them;
moreover, i will have to pay
3 times what i paid for them in 1999
to replace them, no?

then, there are the Christmas decorations
from our first years on the lane.
i haven't used them
since gold became "so last century".
however, when silver goes out of style,
i may just want to decorate my tree
in gold again!!!

finally, things (both seen and stored)
take up a lot of room in my house.
the problem is most of the things in my house
were gifted to me... i know i will feel guilty
about ridding myself of them.
further, will i be sorry one day that i have wasted
something away to the good-will which i will
want to have kept to remember the gifter?



"d" cisions, "d" cisions...

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

the last time...

yesterday marked an end of an era...
it was the last time i will ever take


to martin studio for "mr. steve" to take her picture.

katherine turns 18 in december...


(2011 senior class officers)

"now, i better not see this picture up tomorrow on facebook!" mr. steve said as he turned around and caught me photographing him photographing them...

i only giggled (noncommittal(ly).


our first portrait session...

katherine was only 6 weeks old.


we returned...



when i took katherine only weeks before her 10th birthday, i decided that would be the last session until she turned seventeen.

i wanted her senior pictures to be special.


and they were...


thank you, martin family,
you have blessed our little corner of the world for over 60 years with utmost integrity, love for community, and high-quality photography!

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

go, martin studio.

Thursday, September 23, 2010

the checkered flag...

the checkered flag waved for my friend, mark, last friday night at 10:45pm when a lady did not see the glow from the headlight on his motorcycle and proceeded to pull her car out in front of him.

mark's race was finished.


yesterday, i drove to the neighboring town of owensboro to attend mark's funeral. i was late to the church but slid into the back pew unnoticed. i missed the beginning of mark's eulogy. however, rev. wood, mark's long time friend and mentor, was coincidentally right at the point in the telling of mark's life-story where mark and i lost touch.

"when he returned home from lexington, mark often came by the house to see lori and me," wood said then continued, "i'm pretty sure if there were lights on in the house, mark thought they were on for him."

wood smiled;

the congregation chuckled.


a reason, a season, or a lifetime?

had i ever needed anything, i know mark would have done whatever he could have to help, and, though i had known mark most of my life, we were only really great friends for a few years. so, if i had to classify the type of friend mark was, i would have to say he was a friend for a season.

people who are said to have come into your life for a season, have done so to perhaps share, grow, or learn with you. maybe, they have brought you an experience of peace, made you laugh, or given you an unbelievable amount of joy...

but, only for a season.

mark's and my "season" of friendship began when i was in college and dear friends with his girlfriend, jeanne. our friendship lasted through jeanne's and my graduation, my marriage to john, his marriage to jeanne, the birth of my katherine, and several years thereafter while he and jeanne were living in lexington and she was in medical school.

during that time, mark made me laugh... A LOT. mark was a very funny guy! and he adored katherine. he always kept a photo of her in his wallet so that when others would pull out their pictures to share he would have one, too. that brought me great joy.

when he and jeanne divorced, he moved back home, and we lost contact.


now, i knew mark had moved to owensboro, gotten married, welcomed into the world a little girl, and that mark and his brother had recently been taking care of their ailing parents. however, there were a couple of things upon which rev. wood elaborated i didn't know .

first, wood told us that mark battled cancer a couple of years ago. according to the reverend, it was at this time that mark renewed his faith in and relationship with God. then wood told us that just this past week mark took his mother, who is currently battling cancer, to texas for treatment and further testing. mark and his mother actually returned home from texas on friday only hours before his death.

"cancer is sometimes a gift," said woods. "it gives you time."
"it gave mark the time to get things right with God, and it gave his mother a full week with him she may not have had had she not been diagnosed with cancer. mark was honestly blessed to have had it...

for, cancer gives you time;

motorcycle crashes don't!'"


after an invitation to pray for salvation, music, and a benediction, the funeral ended. the family receded out of the sanctuary. mark's wife, lana, looked at me and smiled through her tears as she walked past me holding the hand of their beautiful little, natalie. next mark's parents and brother walked past his mother stopped and squeezed my hand. it was heartbreaking.

there were several from the henderson county high school class of '87 in attendance jill, whom i had known since pre-school, donnie, who was my math bowl partner, michelle, with whom i had played little league baseball, shelly, who was in my junior honors us history class, lori, who sang in choir with me, and dann-Y, who was a buddy of mine all through junior high and high school...

many, many more,

who were unable to attend,

were there in spirit.

it was a very nostalgic day.


i was at the back of the funeral procession, which brought mark from owensboro to henderson and home to his final resting place. at one point i looked down at my speedometer and realized the long line of cars ahead of me and i were only going 45mph on the 70mph audubon parkway. i giggled to myself. mark, who liked pretty women and fast cars, wouldn't be diggin' this trip one bit! too bad, mark... we continued to slowly but surely make our way.

as we neared henderson, cars, vans, trucks, and semis pulled to the shoulder of the road and stopped out of respect for the procession.


around 3 o'clock, we bid mark a final farewell at roselawn cemetery.


(mark with richard petty, king of nascar)

... i have finished the race,
i have kept the faith.
(2 timothy 4:7 niv)


mark is with the KING of kings!
until we meet again...

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Sunday, September 19, 2010

turn, turn, turn...

Music-Pete Seeger

To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn)
There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn)
And a time to every purpose, under Heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn)
There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn)
And a time to every purpose, under Heaven

A time to build up,a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together

To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn)
There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn)
And a time to every purpose, under Heaven

A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing

To Everything (Turn, Turn, Turn)
There is a season (Turn, Turn, Turn)
And a time to every purpose, under Heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time for love, a time for hate
A time for peace, I swear it's not too late.


my kids' hope friend, andrew,
welcomed his son into the world this week.
paxton only weighs 2 lbs;
but, i hear he is a fighter like his dad!


an old friend was killed in a
motorcycle crash on his way to work
friday night.
he was a dad...

i need to plant a tree;
while i am still young.
God willing, i will see it grow
and bear fruit.


"laughter through tears"
is NOT my favorite emotion.
if i am crying,
let me cry, dammit!

now, laughter causing tears,
is a totally different story:D


with God i can build myself up.
though i find myself closer to Him
when i am all torn down.
(the rub)


when i am happy,
i like most to dance with myself...
when no one is looking.


i have lost two friends
in the past 3 weeks.
i am mourning what once was.


i have allowed obstacles
to come between God and me.
it is time to move them out of our way!


i keep "my garden" small.
i love and protect all that is in it.
i have allowed a few weeds
over the years thinking,
they need a place too.

that was foolishness!

weeds are weeds;
they are destructive.
they will destroy a garden
(no matter how big or small it is).

i hate weeds!


i have prayed about and fought battles.
at times i waged war with windmills;
at times i waged war with giants.

war is tiring.
right now, i am resting.


i have learned to embrace only
that which is good.
i have learned not to embrace
only for the act of looking good.

looks can be deceiving!


when i am bored...
i eat.

it is time to busy myself...
count my blessings...
and fast.


my favorite pair of pajamas...
are a pair my friend, dana, gave me.
they have developed holes:(

i think i shall use the fabric
to make something


i keep "my garden" small.
i love and protect all that is in it.
i have allowed a few weeds
over the years thinking,
they need a place too.

that was foolishness!

weeds are weeds;
they are destructive.
they will destroy a garden
(no matter how big or small it is).

i hate weeds!


the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard my heart and mind in Christ Jesus.(phillippians 4:7)

it will for you, too.
it is not too late.

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Saturday, September 11, 2010

smoke rises

i cannot let this day pass
without remembering its significance.

(just before the collapse)

september 11, 2001

dressed in a gray 3/4 length sleeved tee, my ralph lauren weekenders, and steel-toed metatarsals, i walked into the administrative building where our office was located. not unlike any other day, my boss, tl, asked if i wanted to go have a "smoke"...

i said, "sure, let's go, but let me get me a grab a cupppa coffee first..." ("having a smoke" at the company where we were working was more like "hanging out around the water cooler".)

i grabbed a cuppa, and we headed out of the building. as we did so, tl held the door for one of the accountants, who was arriving for work. "have you all heard that an airplane just hit one of the towers?" pam asked.

jack, who was joining us for "a smoke" said he had heard about it...
no details.

we walked out onto the patio. preoccupied, i drank my coffee. tl, jack, and pat smoked and talked. i heard them talking but really wondered what tower the airplane had hit. i didn't realize pam and jack were referring to one of the towers at the world trade center and the airplane was in fact a large jet.

shortly thereafter, pam stuck her head out the door and informed us a second plane had crashed into a second tower. as my three co-workers quickly extinguished three cigarette butts in a sand-filled ashtray located outside the office door, 
it dawned on me...
the world trade center?! the four of us hurried back into the building.

i followed tl into our office, which was also the company's information center (where cnn headline news constantly looped) for the company's telemonitors . tl and i just stood there in stunned silence, horrified. our co-workers, rhonda and sue, arrived. none of us could believe what was happening.

we heard our fellow employees start to gather in the lobby to watch the news. we walked out to join them.

more breaking news: "the pentagon has been hit!"

concurrently, a maintenance man walked into the lobby from the factory. he looked over his shoulder and exclaimed, "guys, this is not a terrorist attack-
these are acts of war!"

false reports ensued: "we are getting unofficial reports that the white house and the capitol building have also been hit!"

in what seemed like slow motion, i panned the room. the looks of shock, horror, and disbelief encompassed the faces of everyone, respectively. i backed around the corner and into the empty hallway to catch my breath. i noticed a facilitator was teaching a class across the hall from where i stood. the instructor looked at my face obviously wondering what was happening. i walked toward the door as he opened it.

"we are under attack..." i heard the words come from my mouth. "they have hit the world trade center, the pentagon, the white house, and the capitol building."
the gentleman turned away from me, uttered something, and dismissed his class.
i rejoined tlrhonda, and sue. we made our way back into our office. in complete silence, we sat staring at the monitor.

"tl, what is going on?" i asked. "there's smoke coming from the bottom of that building?! smoke rises; something is not right!"

tl shrugged his shoulders, "i don't know, but, you're right."

within seconds the building began to collapse!
what i had noticed wasn't smoke at all:
 it was dust from the impending collapse
 i had witnessed pouring from the lobby floor of the south tower.

knowing i was going to accomplish nothing, 
i put away my work, grabbed my phone and keys, 
and told my co-workers i would see them 
in the morning ("God willing," i thought to myself).

i needed to go talk to Him, 
to God.
so, i drove directly to church.
once there, 
i went into our sanctuary,
made my way to the altar,
and began to pray.

that tuesday will forever be etched in my mind,

and those same prayers will forever be in my heart...

they are still here today.

love and GOD'S blessings,
dani xxx

Saturday, September 4, 2010


henderson county high school's
senior class president...

(kitty katherine!!!)

congratulations to the 2011 class officers!!!

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Tuesday, August 31, 2010


class officer election time again,
and katherine is running for
senior class president!!!

good luck, love:D

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

ps. maggie approved this message!

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Monday, August 16, 2010

kentucky rain...

33 years ago today on a rainy kentucky afternoon, i sat in my grandmommie's living room watching television when abc anchorman, harry reasoner, broke into regular programming to report that elvis presley had died of an apparent heart attack at his home in memphis, tennessee.

i still remember the smell that lingered from the recent down-pour as i ran across the street to see if the neighbors had heard the news...

where were you when the news
of the passing of
"the king of rock 'n' roll"

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Thursday, August 5, 2010

12 years...

gone by...

(katherine's first day of kindergarten 1998)

(katherine's and jacob's first day of their senior year)

all in the blink of an eye.

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Saturday, July 17, 2010

pictures, pictures, pictures...

(my sweet girls)

(photos by martin studio)

steve martin has always had the ability
to capture the true essence of my katherine.

(lexington photos)

my mom surprised katherine with another photo session.
this is the only other photographer that has ever worked with katherine.
also very nice work.

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Thursday, July 8, 2010


in photos:

i turned 41.

katherine had her senior pictures taken by
"mr. steve" (click).

maggie sported her first hair-bow.

i hope you are enjoying your summer,
dear friends!!!

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Saturday, May 29, 2010

now and then, part deux...

(marshalls, ushers, and usherettes 2010)

(marshalls and usherettes 1986)

congratulations class of 2010!!!

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Thursday, May 27, 2010

now and then...

(honors night 2010)

(honors night 1986)

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Thursday, May 20, 2010

simply chase

i picked up katherine on tuesday night:
it was her first full day of work at the library.

katherine: did you dvr idol?
me: yes.
katherine: what did lee sing?
me: i cannot remember, but it was a lynyrd skynyrd song.
katherine: "sweet home alabama"?
me: no.??...
katherine: "simple man"?
me: maybe... (i'm not good with song titles)

after showers and jammies, i turned on idol,
and we watched.
casey james did his thing;
crystal did hers.
then ryan seacrest announced,
"here's lee dewyze with
lynyrd skynyrd's, 'simple man'..."

katherine: i love this song...
but it makes me sad.
me: why does it make you sad?
katherine: it reminds me of chase...
it was one of his favorite songs.


yesterday the john deere was low on fuel, and i knew that i needed to get the grass mowed given the forecast was rain for the next several days. so, i went to the gas station and filled up my can. i decided to drive the back way home because there was so much construction going on on the main roadway in town (the back way takes me past the cemetery where chase is buried). as i drove by, i couldn't help but glance his way...

i thought to myself, young parents shouldn't have to think about buying plots and a monument for themselves...
much less their children.


this morning i opened the tea-towel drawer to pull out a clean towel and dishrag. when i did i noticed a box in the bottom of the drawer. the box was labeled, mosquito coil. that box has been in the bottom of that drawer for years, and it's been years since i've paid any attention to it.

i bought it the night i took katherine, hannah, carlie, elise, and chase to the drive-in... yes, chase was the only boy in the bunch (totally his choice)! that was the night we started calling him hugh (hugh hefner).
he thought the nickname was epic!

that was a fun night for the kids (not so much for our neighbors trying to watch batman begins). the kids were a little rambunctious... let's just say, i would be willing to bet that the current owners of my old windstar could to this day still find skittles in its creases and crevices...
they can thank chase and carlie for those little finds of fruity sweetness, which went flying as hugh and carl were jumping up and down in the back of the van when the bag busted...



chase may be gone, and the decal on katherine's back windshield may no longer exactly say, in loving memory of chase trent (as several letters have gone missing), but chase will remain in our hearts and our minds



love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

may eleventh,

nineteen hundred and ninety...

at seven thirty in the evening.

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Friday, May 7, 2010

second verse...

almost same as the first.

twenty-four years ago
found my mother and me shopping for

a pastel dress...
shoes to match...
and short, white gloves...
(requirements for junior girl, honor students to usher the seniors at graduation)


(can you find me?)


last night
found katherine, jacob and me shopping for

a pastel dress
shoes to match
and short, white gloves...


a black tuxedo...
shoes to match...
and white shirt...
(requirements for junior girl/boy, honor students to usher the seniors at graduation)


the dress...

(photos of katherine in the dress to follow;)

and the girl after shopping...

(sipping on a cotton candy shirley temple)

they didn't make those 24 years ago!

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Sunday, May 2, 2010

first job

(katherine after receiving her good news: 4/28/10)

nervously, katherine got out of the commander on wednesday and made her way into the henderson county public library for her very first interview... for her very first job. she was in her interview for about 30 minutes before reappearing.

"i think it went well; but i don't know if i will get the job because there may be only one position... i told them that if it were between hannah and me to give it to hannah since she was the one who told me about the opening."

"we'll just have to wait and see," i responded with a reassuring smile.

we decided on chinese take-out for dinner. while i was in the restaurant picking up our empress and mu-shu, the director of the library called katherine to let her know that she'd been hired...
as well as hannah!

much love,
dani xx

Friday, April 30, 2010


is it better to make a bad choice for the right reason


a good choice for the wrong reason?

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

just things

that make me smile:

to know that...

in just 2 short weeks we will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary:)


the sound of...

snoring under my covers:)


when i buy katherine something like...

which i know she adores even though she rolls her eyes at me:)


that the eunuch...

has finally decided that the lane,
not the animal shelter,
is his home:)


here is wishing you
to make you :)

love and God's blessings,
d xx

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

the WINNER is...


indeed, it was mrs. moss' wedding gown
inside the box...

a gown hand-made in 1937
by her mother.

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

Thursday, April 22, 2010

GIVEAWAY hint...

for those of you who haven't guessed yet,
as well as...
for those of you who have and
think your answer may be incorrect,
you can find the answer to
"what is in the bag?"
in the first 1/3 of the
mosses monday posts!!!

however, if you think you've already
answered the question correctly,
look no further:)))

love and God's blessings,
dani xxx

ps you will find all mosses monday posts
in ascending order on my side bar entitled,

"our love story".

click HERE to enter.

you have until 8am monday, april 26, 2010!

Monday, April 19, 2010

a mosses monday GIVEAWAY...

this morning when i went to take maggie out for a walk,
i opened the front door to find this...

a gift bag full of


on my front porch!!!

(it came from mosses nieces,

marlene and susie.


i knew that part of it was coming;
there are photos of the mosses inside the bag.

however, along with the photos,
you may notice that there is also
a gift box in the bag...

be the first to guess what is in the box;
and you will receive a mossy kind of gift
sent with love all the way from the lane.

you may submit your guesses up and until
april 26, 2010, @ 8am (next monday morning).

good luck:)

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

ps you will find earlier entries in ascending order on my side bar entitled, "our love story":)

Sunday, April 11, 2010


nature's first green is gold,
her hardest hue to hold.

her early leaf's a flower;
but only so an hour. (robert frost)

is spring on the lane.

love and God's blessings,
dani xx