Monday, December 22, 2008

mosses monday XIV...

there was a fire roaring in the fireplace, the old artificial tree with the 2 foot, metal trunk was aglow and trimmed with silver tinsel and homemade angel ornaments, and mrs. moss and i were  in the kitchen preparing "dodads" (nuts, popcorn, bugles) and toddies for john and mr. moss.
mr. moss always had a noon-time toddy
and a before-dinner toddy because the highballs 
calmed down his parkinsons' induced
shaking hands a bit.
his noon-time toddy was usually a bloody mary...
his evening drink, bourbon and coke.
as i stood washing out katherine's sippy cup and watching a barge make its way down the icy ohio river, mrs. moss walked over to me and handed me a can of coke to fill katherine's cup.

"isn't george wonderful, dani..." she said as she gazed out the window.

i smiled. 
(she was telling me nothing 
i didn't already know.)
"can you believe he had my tree dug up in henderson and had it transported all the way down here and planted?"
i just smiled not sure where our conversation was going...

she continued on in her gravelly, sophisticated voice, "i don't really like being in florida for the holidays, but george said it isn't time to go home just yet. i am just so happy you, john and the sugarplum are here...  i cannot get over that tree," she faded into thought.

we took the drinks and dodads into our guys and "sugarplum" katherine. these were precursors to every meal for the mosses. they WERE the meal for katherine!!!
(as written previously, katherine was sure that mrs. moss was the best cook on the face of the earth, mmmm... popcorn and bugles;) ~@~ 

we had made reservations at hunan's, our local chinese bistro. hence, when we arrived they had our table waiting. mr. moss took mrs. moss' coat, and john took katherine's and mine. we three girls seated ourselves. after hanging our coats, mr. moss and john joined us.

the restaurant was rather crowded with mostly familiar faces. mrs. moss didn't seem to notice. anna, the owner of the restaurant, showed us to our table and took our drink orders.

as she brought mr. moss' black coffee with a straw to the table, she asked if we would be having "the regular". we all smiled and nodded, yes. anna, returned with the rest of our drinks and let us know our soup was on its way.

a group of people several tables over from ours was preparing to leave. they donned their coats and headed towards our table. they happened to be a few of our fellow church parishioners. after mr. moss greeted them with a warm, southern, gentleman's, "how do you do?", we all arose and exchanged hugs, hand-shakes, and merry Christmas wishes.

as the group walked away from our table, mrs. moss, crinkling her beautiful little nose, smiled at mr. moss and said, "george, i can't believe how many people are down here...
here at the holidays..."

"mommie," mr. moss was having a terrible time understanding and accepting mrs. moss' alzheimer's, "where do you think you are?"

i reached under the table and took mrs. moss' soft, warm hand in mine as she replied,


(to be continued...)

love and God's blessings,
dani xx

ps you will find earlier entries in ascending order on my side bar entitled, "our love story":)


Little Sweethearts said...

I've got goosebumps now...


Amanda said...

Mrs. Moss's dementia just breaks my heart.
Such a cruel disease.
love 'n' hugs to you,
Amanda x

Tabitha said...

Oh Dani ~ this post has made me feel so sad for you ~ and the Mosses ~ it is so hard when things like that happen!
love and big hugs my friend XXXXX

Molly's Mellow Moments said...

Dani...sending thoughts and love, dementia is so very cruel. You have written such a moving piece hun. :(

M x

Cheri and Jesse said...

You had an amazing relationship with the Mosses. I love your stories/memories!


Tanya said...

This made my heart sink! Alzheimer's is such a terrible disease! the relationship you had with Mosses was truly very special! Sending lots of love & big Hugs my friend :)))

t. xxxxxx

marlene said...

Dear Dani, Your latest, really took me back to that confusing time. I sat & thought about it for a long while, and then I began remembering how George began to accept it as "normal." They were "troopers" ,the way they always adjusted to their circumstances. That was one of the things that I respected so much about them: ) xo, m

Weith Kick said...
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Weith Kick said...

My wife's grandma has dementia. She knows who we are and remembers us. So, we are fortunate on that end. But her short term memory is not good. The dementia started to really kick in after her husband died two years ago. She often comments that "when grandpa died he took part of me with him." Your story reminds me of this.

Shannon said...

I don't know why this makes me cry....I DON'T KNOW THE MOSS'S, but you've made me give them a place in my heart. God Love Her Mrs. Moss.....I hope she was happy in "Florida"

juz said...

Beautiful Dani, Beautiful

Heidi 'n' Jeff said...

You are a really beautiful writer Dani. I love to read about the Moss' too. I think you should think about making a book about them.

kristen said...

Yes you are a great writer.

Merry Xmas Dani
hope you have a lovely day

SuzanSayz said...

Dani, I want you to know that the whole time I was writing my newest post on my dear friend Phyllis that I had you and your Mrs Moss in mind. I wish I was as good as you at visiting and enjoying the time you had left with those beautiful people. I really do intend to use you as an example to see Pyllis much more often.
When I grow up I hope I can be as good as you are. (Smile)

Lucy said...

Dani, What a great writer you are. You draw us all into your story with such awe and make it all come alive especially the very sad parts like today's piece. I Have heard that having a loved one with dementure is like watching them fading away right before your eyes. How very very sad. They both sound like very special people and you were so very lucky to have them in your life.
Guess what Dani? Elise shared a few of your Reese's Peanut Butter Cups. Oh my goodness, there are just too delicious. Yumooo.
I wish you, John, Katherine and Maggie a very joyous and loving Christmas.
Love and hugs